Wedding etiquette is a serious matter that begins with the acceptance and extends beyond the wedding day. It is important to adhere to these customs to avoid scrutiny. Both brides and guests have their own set of rules and concerns to navigate.
While the “Congratulations Rule” is seen as outdated, one thing remains unchanged: in the South, a simple text message or Facebook post will never suffice. Handwritten notes hold a special place, especially when celebrating a wedding.
Whether you’re family, close friends, or distant acquaintances with the bride or groom, you should send a wedding card. Full stop. (And whether or not you’re attending the wedding, as well.) If you’re not sure what’s appropriate, just know that it’s largely to your discretion. But here are 40 ideas—formal, casual, and even Biblical—to get you started on what to write in a wedding card.
Formal Wedding Wishes
When attending the wedding of a less familiar couple, a formal message may be suitable. While not as personalized, it expresses genuine wishes for their future. To make it more intimate for close relationships, add personal touches.
“May the years ahead be filled with love and joy.”
“May your love grow stronger each and every passing year.”
“Thank you for letting us share in your special day. We wish you all the happiness in the world.”
“Here’s to a lifetime full of happiness and love.”
“Wishing you well as you embark on this next chapter of life. Cheers!”
“May today mark the first of the rest of your life, filled with love and fellowship.”
“Here’s to a long, happy life with the one you love. Wishing you the best.”
“Wishing you happiness, love, and joy on your wedding day.”
“Today is the beginning of your next chapter. Here’s to you!”
“It’s a joy to celebrate your love.”
Casual Wedding Wishes
For pre-wedding events like the engagement party or bridal shower, a casual note is suitable regardless of the recipient, and saying “congratulations” is now acceptable.
“Here’s to a long and happy marriage!”
“Wishing you all of the love and happiness!”
“We’re so happy for you!”
“I’m seeing a fun-filled life in your future. Congratulations!”
“So honored to spend this happy occasion with you and your family.”
“Wishing you the best today and beyond.”
“Start your next chapter in style—with this little something!” (Attached to a gift.)
“Well wishes!”
“Today is just the beginning of the fun! Looking forward to celebrating this season with you.”
When it comes to communicating with different people, the tone and content may vary depending on the relationship. In the South, family holds great significance, making this message ideal to start a wedding card for a new family member. Follow it with a personalized touch.
“Thank you for letting us share in the celebration. Welcome to the family!”
“So blessed to have gained another sister/cousin/aunt.”
“We’re so happy that [name] found ‘The One,” and that it is you!”
“Today we add another family member to the tree, and we couldn’t be happier.”
“Sending love and hugs always, from your new family in [place].“
“Wishing you two all the happiness and love. Here’s to you!”
“We couldn’t be happier to call you family. Thanks for allowing us to join in the Big Day.”
“Our family has gained quite the amazing man/lady. Lucky us!”
“Congratulations, and welcome to the family!”
“You’ve felt like part of the family from the start. We’re so glad it’s now official!”
Friend's Wedding Well Wishes
When attending a close friend’s wedding, it’s important to strike a balance between formality and personal connection. Stay true to yourself and your friendship, as it is a special occasion.
“Cheers to love, laughter, and happily ever after!”
“To my best friend on your wedding day, know that your happiness is everything to me. The fact that you’ve found your someone means the world. Congratulations!”
“May your marriage bring as much happiness to your life as our friendship has brought to mine.”
“[Name] makes you shine brighter than you ever have before, and it’s for that reason, and that reason alone, that I’m willing to share you. Cheers to finding your forever. “
“I can’t think of anyone in the world more deserving of happiness than you, my friend. I can’t wait to see what life has in store for the happy couple. Congrats! “
Meaningful Wedding Wishes
A heartfelt message is always a perfect choice for a wedding. It captures the emotions and optimism of this special time.
“May the love you share today only grow stronger and stronger over the years.”
“I know the many years head of you will be filled with endless joy.”
“Everlasting love is a gift, but not one that you unwrap just once. It’s a gift that evolves over time and never ceases to amaze.”
“No mountain is too high to climb when you climb it together.”
“May your marriage be filled with trust, respect, and love, but above all else, may it be filled with abundant joy.”
Funny Wedding Wishes
Weddings are brimming with emotions and significant moments, making it an opportune time to inject humor into your card. A lighthearted and brief funny wedding message is guaranteed to bring smiles to the couple.
“It’s time for you to eat, drink, and finally be married!”
“It’s all fun and games until you have to build a piece of furniture together.”
“You only get to annoy one person for the rest of your life! Congrats!”
“Signed, sealed, and delivered… and no returns!”
“If you discover the secret to a happy marriage, please let me know!”
